Happy Father's Day

[MW]

Let's put aside all differences for awhile and take some time to pay tributes to our Fathers, living or passed on...

For those who are not in my FB..


DAD'S LOVE

Every morning for the past 6 years I would drop by my parents' place before heading to my office nearby, and my dad would make me breakfast.

One day it rained very heavily n I called him saying I wun be dropping by as I was also late and rushing to work. I could hear a tinge of sadness in his voice as he asked what about my breakfast. I told him hastily I would just grab a bite at the office cafeteria n hung up.

As usual I drove by my parents' place but as it was raining heavily, I drove slower than usual. At the front gate of the building, I saw a faint figure with an umbrella in the heavy rain. As I drove nearer I saw who it was...my dad clutching a bag. He knew I would drive by that road and wanted to make sure I didn't miss my daily breakfast....

 

[Red_Bean_Bun]

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Another excuse for the entire family to go shopping again.......

 

[pengful]

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Thanks for wishing me, MW. I wish you happy Father's Day too.

 

[Meek]

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i am going to be in tears after this...

my late daddy dearest was my lifetime hero. as with most heros, he was always not home fighting for world causes but he was always there when we needed him to be. dedicated to improvement of world betterment, he spent his time helping others and being kind to people who many took advantage of his good nature. guess, to him, he has so much kindness in his heart it did not matter spreading it out. he wasnt a man of smooth and charming words or big gestures but of substance and endurance.

being daddy's girl, i was the apple in his eye. in my growing up years, he told me stories of ancient china and pre-war malaya every night after dinner, helped me with my studies even though his stubborn and rebellious daughter drove him up the wall, opened my mind to philosophies of life and discussions of society. not wanting to break my spirit, he cleverly anchored my mind to my core heritage and culture. he taught me the value and principle of understanding and doing the right things without fear or prejudice, instead focused on the abstract concepts of joy by giving others. though coming from a conservative background, he was tolerant and modern about bringing up what would be his prodigal daughter. he sacrificed a luxury life for his children's stellar education even though he couldnt really afford it. he encouraged and supported all our yearnings to learn and academic aspirations.

daddy was a practical man. after an terrifying high speed accident where i had smashed daddy's car into the back of a car with 5 big burly indian guys in the early hours of the morning (breached my curfew of midnight), i managed to return safely home shaken. his first question to me was a calm, "are you alright?" followed by a, "what do you plan to do with my car?" before telling me to go sleep.

In his last years, daddy was very ill. worse, he was angry because he couldnt do the things he used to do. he threw tantrums at everyone and worse, at himself. he would cheer up immediately when i would go to visit him and sulk till the next time i visited again. he's been gone for a couple of years. chinese new year, my birthday, and all other celebratory events have never been the same since. i miss him much.

 

[MW]

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Thanks for wishing me, MW. I wish you happy Father's Day too.

I m only a sugar daddy now, but thanks!

 

[tomace]

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Thanks for sharing MW & Meek ~~

Happy Father's Day to all ~~~

*PS : Godfather counted bo?

 

[jonleeck]

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Tributes to dad?
I love my dad... Without my dad I won't be driving bmw cos he paid for my
Driving license.

 

[chershen]

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Nicest thread on a Sat, tks to MW.

Happie Dads' Day, all - past, present and those who are becoming one.

 

[seanskye]

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Thanks MW, you made Christmas come early!

 

[totoseow]

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my dad passed away last year 7,nov....its hard for me to tell his life story for all to hear. but this was the eulogy i delivered in church:



At 745 am my dad passed away. the SAME time that For 17 years, I had breakfast with him each morning in shenton way. He will pass thru my office area on his way to work in clementi. It was our ritual till he retired 2 yrs back.

We will meet at a coffee shop 745am each morning and spend 15mins of silence together just eating n reading the papers. This is my most precious memories of him.

Papa joe as my wife calls him was the humblest of men. No temper n most patient and giving man. Its always others before him. Never complaining even in his worst pain thru this terrible disease. He always chose to bear the cross for others. He taught me forgiveness above all.

Since he was diagnosed I find myself questioning why him? Worked n slogged all his life for us till 60. Diagnosed at 61. Dead by 62. A good man n yet god wants him back cos he is a good man?

I found my faith wavering. Why isn't god giving my parents a chance to enjoy retirement? why isn't there time for me to take my parents on another holiday.
I realised the answer as I watched him die. This wasn't only gods test for my dad. This was also gods test for us as a family unit.
In the end god gave me the miracle I seeked. He died most peacefully, with not a struggle.

They say u r judged not by who u surround urself with when u r alive but by who is around when u r dead. With his death I saw the reeach of my dads kindness. I saw the lives he touched. Peoepl who I do not know. Cousins who stepepd up to help. Frieends from another generation who came to say good byes. I heard the stories. and the stories were simply amazing for most.

My dad was a quiet pillar of strength. Generous yet anonymous in his love. He drew everryone together quietly. It is into these big shoes that I hope to fill.

N that's why its incredibly painful for all of us to stand here n bid good bye to my dad, to papajoe.

But dad. I want to tell u this. N I'm glad we bot u 1 year. During this 1yr, we learnt a lot more about ur humility and courage. They r lessons for me in life.

This 1yr has been v hard for us but we fought a good fight. Our families hv come together n I know that was ur main worry. I promised u that the 3 remaining fishing hooks as we were all Js. n our wives pauline n gwen n ur grand sons ryan n J J will continue to b as tight as u hv always wanted us to b.

U know I'm not half the man u were. I hv realised I'm not even 10pct during the last few days. But I will continue to have you as my guiding light.

Please rest in peace papa. We r gonna miss u. We will take care of mom. We love u so incredibly much.

 

[totoseow]

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dont ask my why my mother in laws' picture is there. i cant get rid of it!!!!

 

[MSportTune]

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my dad passed away last year 7,nov....its hard for me to tell his life story for all to hear. but this was the eulogy i delivered in church:



At 745 am my dad passed away. the SAME time that For 17 years, I had breakfast with him each morning in shenton way. He will pass thru my office area on his way to work in clementi. It was our ritual till he retired 2 yrs back.

We will meet at a coffee shop 745am each morning and spend 15mins of silence together just eating n reading the papers. This is my most precious memories of him.

Papa joe as my wife calls him was the humblest of men. No temper n most patient and giving man. Its always others before him. Never complaining even in his worst pain thru this terrible disease. He always chose to bear the cross for others. He taught me forgiveness above all.

Since he was diagnosed I find myself questioning why him? Worked n slogged all his life for us till 60. Diagnosed at 61. Dead by 62. A good man n yet god wants him back cos he is a good man?

I found my faith wavering. Why isn't god giving my parents a chance to enjoy retirement? why isn't there time for me to take my parents on another holiday.
I realised the answer as I watched him die. This wasn't only gods test for my dad. This was also gods test for us as a family unit.
In the end god gave me the miracle I seeked. He died most peacefully, with not a struggle.

They say u r judged not by who u surround urself with when u r alive but by who is around when u r dead. With his death I saw the reeach of my dads kindness. I saw the lives he touched. Peoepl who I do not know. Cousins who stepepd up to help. Frieends from another generation who came to say good byes. I heard the stories. and the stories were simply amazing for most.

My dad was a quiet pillar of strength. Generous yet anonymous in his love. He drew everryone together quietly. It is into these big shoes that I hope to fill.

N that's why its incredibly painful for all of us to stand here n bid good bye to my dad, to papajoe.

But dad. I want to tell u this. N I'm glad we bot u 1 year. During this 1yr, we learnt a lot more about ur humility and courage. They r lessons for me in life.

This 1yr has been v hard for us but we fought a good fight. Our families hv come together n I know that was ur main worry. I promised u that the 3 remaining fishing hooks as we were all Js. n our wives pauline n gwen n ur grand sons ryan n J J will continue to b as tight as u hv always wanted us to b.

U know I'm not half the man u were. I hv realised I'm not even 10pct during the last few days. But I will continue to have you as my guiding light.

Please rest in peace papa. We r gonna miss u. We will take care of mom. We love u so incredibly much.

Very sorry to hear about this and thanks for sharing this lovely eulogy. I learnt your dad was not well from vagsg and have been trying to ask how is your dad but held back as I was afraid of something like this. It is sad to have to find out this way. I too had a great dad and lost him back in 2003! His legacy lives in all his 7 children and we are even closer now than ever and living his legacy as we always put it. He touched many lifes as well as he was a Catechist for over 40yrs and had many god children.

I am sure your dad is in heaven like mine and will be smiling down seeing how we are living our lives and making him proud.

Take care bro!

To all : Pls cherish your loved ones as we should all lived life to the fullest and not take for granted the time we spent as a family. Something I have to constantly remind myself!

Happy Father's Day!

My kids are treating me to Italian pizza in RWS later and I am looking forward to that.

 

[dash]

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Happy father's day to all!

I wish my wife will give me wonderful intimate time tonight.
(She sometimes surfs this forum)

And...spend time w your dads, while u still can!

 

[seanskye]

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Very sorry to hear about this and thanks for sharing this lovely eulogy. I learnt your dad was not well from vagsg and have been trying to ask how is your dad but held back as I was afraid of something like this. It is sad to have to find out this way. I too had a great dad and lost him back in 2003! His legacy lives in all his 7 children and we are even closer now than ever and living his legacy as we always put it. He touched many lifes as well as he was a Catechist for over 40yrs and had many god children.

I am sure your dad is in heaven like mine and will be smiling down seeing how we are living our lives and making him proud.

Take care bro!

To all : Pls cherish your loved ones as we should all lived life to the fullest and not take for granted the time we spent as a family. Something I have to constantly remind myself!

Happy Father's Day!

My kids are treating me to Italian pizza in RWS later and I am looking forward to that.

Same here bro, I lost my dad suddenly the very same year and it was really tough. Had to take care of mum and all the sisters and I remember how I had gone down to $20 in my bank account at one stage. Days were dark but we pulled through and made things better. We should always count our blessings and be happy no matter what life throws at us - after all we only have one life to live, might as well live it to the fullest and have no regrets later on.

 

[MSportTune]

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Same here bro, I lost my dad suddenly the very same year and it was really tough. Had to take care of mum and all the sisters and I remember how I had gone down to $20 in my bank account at one stage. Days were dark but we pulled through and made things better. We should always count our blessings and be happy no matter what life throws at us - after all we only have one life to live, might as well live it to the fullest and have no regrets later on.

Sorry to hear that bro! Take care! Agree on what you said.

 

[hetraa]

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''Since he was diagnosed I find myself questioning why him? Worked n slogged all his life for us till 60. 'Diagnosed at 61. Dead by 62. A good man n yet god wants him back cos he is a good man?

I found my faith wavering. Why isn't god giving my parents a chance to enjoy retirement? why isn't there time for me to take my parents on another holiday.''

I agree on this line very much. Tks for sharing.

 

[pengful]

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My old man passed away on 27 Dec last year. I've not been close to him since sec school days and the relationship got worse as I got older and he got further away from the family. I did not cry when he died but did it at the alter during the wake. I shed tears not because I will miss him yada yada.... I had tears because he died alone, without anyone near him. He could have spoken to my brothers and I but he chose to go alone.

 

[benkwlau]

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Happy Father's Day to ALL !

 

[MSportTune]

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My old man passed away on 27 Dec last year. I've not been close to him since sec school days and the relationship got worse as I got older and he got further away from the family. I did not cry when he died but did it at the alter during the wake. I shed tears not because I will miss him yada yada.... I had tears because he died alone, without anyone near him. He could have spoken to my brothers and I but he chose to go alone.

Sorry to hear that bro! They say time will heal all wounds but however, they did not specify the timeframe! Hope you find peace soon if you haven't.

Take care!

 

[MSportTune]

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Thanks to MW for starting this thread and give us the opportunity to honor our dads!

I have not seen this side of him before,....I thought he only like to say "pissed of la"!
Just kidding!