true happiness doesn't come from serving yourself

[wobbles]

Re: true happiness doesn't come from serving yourself

What would you feel if you are in his state?

The beautiful thing for me was that I felt exactly the same way as he did - without needing to be near Death's door. I think the best lessons are always learnt from somebody else's mistakes/regrets/life experiences. It's up to us to humble our hearts & allow those lessons to sink in.

Check your PM bro, you have mail

 

[golfgti]

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thats how it is right, becoz of work we r so busy to appreciate the small things, n its only when everything is abt to stop then we realize how much we have missed n cant rewind the clock.

Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.

 

[st8800]

true happiness doesn't come from serving yourself

I understand the author's message about finding greater meaning in life, but accumulating wealth and being professional at work are two separate matters - there was nothing to stop him from having money and being a good doctor.

Hope he wasn't asking the young ones to feel guilty about it.

I surmised he was saying that he could have been a better doctor and person if he was not so obsessed with accumulating wealth. He chose to be less a doctor and more an entrepreneur and only regretted when he was staring death in the face.

I think your statement on him asking the young ones to feel guilty was rather insensitive,

 

[st8800]

true happiness doesn't come from serving yourself

I mean a person is on his deathbed sharing his regrets in life... if u don't feel compassionate, then it will be best to refrain from passing negative remarks.

 

[hetraa]

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likewise.. i felt that way much earlier in age. just go to GH cancer centre any day n have a look at the sufferers, packed full with patients.

possessions and money are nothing, u cant bring them to the grave. just enjoy experiential living, spend quality time with family n loved ones, friends, meals , holidays.

theres karma in everything.

The beautiful thing for me was that I felt exactly the same way as he did - without needing to be near Death's door. I think the best lessons are always learnt from somebody else's mistakes/regrets/life experiences. It's up to us to humble our hearts & allow those lessons to sink in.

Check your PM bro, you have mail

 

[Oilman]

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I think your statement on him asking the young ones to feel guilty was rather insensitive,

You misread. My "it" referred to wealth, i.e. I hope the young ones won't start to think it's a bad thing to have money. That is all.

 

[st8800]

true happiness doesn't come from serving yourself

No problem bro, let's chill and be brothers. Actually I also money face one but I got heart too.

 

[Shev]

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I don't think that's fair for a sharing from a terminally-ill patient. The key gist is regret and sharing, not about what he had owned, or how successful he had been.....





The poorer guy cannot be compared to the rich guy - he does not have a choice. The rich guy does have a choice - so they are actually not on opposite sides of the scale.

Dr Teo said, "..... substituted true joy with the pursuing of wealth. I thought true joy is about pursuing wealth. Why? Cos let me put it to you this way, in my death bed, I found no joy whatsoever in whatever objects I had – my Ferrari, thinking of the land I was going to buy to build my bungalow etc, having a successful business."

"It brought me ZERO comfort, ZERO joy, nothing at all. Do you think I can hold onto this piece of metal and it’s going to give true joy? Nah, it’s not going to happen."

A poor guy will not die regretting that he could have driven a Ferrari, land to buy to build bungalow......



What would you feel if you are in his state?

I would have been very happy today if I could join u guys for the beautiful game but instead had to attend a seminar on how to educate kids which I cannot say made me feel sad as it is fulfilling and I learnt many things.

I respect Dr Teo for his achievements but what is the purpose if he himself does not feel this joy of achievement?

If I should have known Dr Teo or seen his message earlier, I would have told him to focus on good things he had done and how he had already changed many people's lives rather than what he had not achieve.

This is the choice he could have made to look at the positive things he had done, Ferrari and money aside, and I believe he would have realized that he had helped many people live a more"fulfilling" life than he thought.

 

[Shev]

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I cannot understand why would people be sour over posts like these. The message is that of a dying man (then) and his heart felt thoughts with no cover ups. He's sharing and if you can pick up something and learn from it, fine. Otherwise, there's no need to speculate on the otherwise. If you can't lead a happier life, it doesn't hurt me anymore than it hurts yourself. Life is shorter than you think. The time you take to feel upset, angry, jealous, rage are times you could have better spent it. I'm not an angel and I make sure mistakes myself. I get angry longer than I should, my temper is quicker than my partner would ever wish for but I am humbled by other people's experience and I hope I can continue to remember that there are more important things in life.

I have learnt a very important lesson from Dr Teo: live life to the fullest every day!

As such, there is no time and no space in both heart and mind to feel jealous, anger nor sadness.

Everyday I have the important task to find the dough for my family and an even more important task to ensure they are adequate even if I kick the bucket out of the blue.
I only own a bimmer and have a decent job but I am already very happy with my life and what I have achieved!

By the way, what is there to be jealous about when a person leaves this world with regret?

 

[Chocs]

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I have learnt a very important lesson from Dr Teo: live life to the fullest every day!

As such, there is no time and no space in both heart and mind to feel jealous, anger nor sadness.

Everyday I have the important task to find the dough for my family and an even more important task to ensure they are adequate even if I kick the bucket out of the blue.
I only own a bimmer and have a decent job but I am already very happy with my life and what I have achieved!

By the way, what is there to be jealous about when a person leaves this world with regret?

...yup...Jealousy is a Bitch...indeed...

...frds over many years oso like dat only....narrow r the hearts of mny....unfortunately....

 

[turbocharged]

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I am already very happy with my life and what I have achieved!

Indeed...he who knows contentment is rich.

 

[tt20]

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thanks for sharing toto. great wake up call, not only to doctors but the Society.

 

[SLK69]

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sherman got to read this....

 

[totoseow]

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sm yuen got to read this

 

[wobbles]

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...yup...Jealousy is a Bitch...indeed...

...frds over many years oso like dat only....narrow r the hearts of mny....unfortunately....

Honest to goodness, jealously is like the biggest waste of time, energy and money ever. You feel jealous, you lose sleep, you feel unhappy - all over things you have absolutely ZERO control or influence over - and you know the best part? The clincher?

The target of your jealousy may not even be aware of your pitiful existence!

Eat that!

 

[chicane]

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sm yuen got to read this

didnt he just buy a C63 Black?

 

[wobbles]

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sm yuen got to read this

You berry evil. Just because he has a cuatro cinco ocho and owns a namesake of the ex-governator's State....

 

[totoseow]

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its a joke. just noticed similar traits/trade

 

[marklee]

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Ironically, the best way to live, is to recognise and accept that one day we all will die.

 

[iScoupe]

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Colon cancer - patient will need to go through 6 months of chemotherapy to reduce the recurrence rate by 30-50%.
Symptoms of Early Lung cancer - cough, blood in sputum and chest pain.
52% of Ling Cancer patients are cured after their diagnosis.
Radiotherapy is the primary curative treatment for early stage nose cancer.


Obesity is a controllable risk factor for stroke, not age, gender, race or occupation
- should we cut down on s2k and bobby's dinner meetup?